Love vs. Lust

Love:  I love you Lust:  I want you Love:  I love your beautiful eyes Lust:  I love your creamy thighs Love:  I want to get inside your head Lust:  I want to take you to my bed Love:  I like the clothes you wear Lust:  I like to see you bare Love:  I want to spend my life with you Lust:  I want to spend the night with you Love:  You're my everything Lust:  You're my wild thing Love:  I want you only Lust:  I want you when I'm horny Love:  I'll love you 'til the day I die Lust:  I'll love you 'til I say good-byeIs it lust or love? Dr. John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Dear John, I thought it was "love" at first sight with a woman I met at work. We barely knew each other, but after lengthy phone conversations, I told her that I was deeply in love with her and she said she felt the same. She moved in with me soon after that, and the relationship became quite torrid. I don't know if it was all lust or love. How could I have thought that it was really love with a woman I barely knew? What is the "real" meaning of love at first sight? Shouldn't it really be "lust at first sight?" — Got it Wrong in Rochester, N.Y. Dear Got it Wrong, Lust is when one feels an overwhelming passion for another. Love encompasses passion, but also includes a long-term commitment, and mutual pride and respect in the relationship. The relationship you mentioned did not last because while you were physically attracted to her, you were not yet ready to give your heart and soul to her. It was a perfect example of "lust at first sight." On the other hand, love at first sight is something you feel when you are ready to make a commitment to someone who could be your soul mate — and your lust is only secondary to wanting to spend your life with that person. With luck, someday you'll experience that, too. Written January 1st, 2002 © on Jan 01 2002 01:23 PM PST   0 • 8